Playing catch-up
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bop_radarSince the first screenings of Razor have now happened, I've unlocked my Razor meta post and some follow-up thoughts. My thoughts have evolved a lot further than this thanks to some great meta discussions already, but I've had little time to pull them together into a post. I see a few others unlocking their posts--I want to rec a bunch of great (currently locked) posts at some stage so that's exciting!
The last few days have been horrendous for me and I owe a lot of people a lot of things--comments, posts, feedback, emails, time. Sorry, guys! Thanks for bearing with me.
However, I do have some good news! You remember my whinge about the BSG hiatus? (It wasn't really that, but you know what I mean.) Well, thanks to everyone suggestions, I've set up a new community:![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
bsg_hiatusthon. I hope it can be a place where we can organise some ficathons and challenges for the fandom as a whole (NOT just K/L shippers, despite the way my f'list is slanted :p) over the coming months, and I have ideas for the first one already. I was going to wait until then to pimp it, but ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
siljamus has done such a lovely job with the layout, you should check it out. More details to come as soon as I catch my breath!
Yikes, no time for this one! So quickly quickly: Landry broke my heart and I was so scared his dad was going to flip out. When he hugged him I cried. The other guys making me cry this week were Jason and Coach--their scene had be weepy as hell. I am so glad Jason's listening to his heart but on the other hand, wow what a tough decision and what IS he going to do. I thought the '19, going back to Dillon' line was perfect for conveying where he's at.
I was happy with the Tim development and also happy that he's not got an easy card back in from Coach. I kind of adored Smash asking him over for dinner and Smash's little speech about the differences between them. It was also great to see Tim there at Jason's birthday toasting him. The scene between Tim and Lyla was also very strong.
Poor Tami! I loved the way she reacted when her sister arrived--they conveyed the sense of this long-established family dynamic so well. You can whinge about it but you still fall into the same patterns and there's love there underneath. Julie's so painful to watch right now. But I don't think Matty's new girl will last.
On a random note: I've realised one of the things that's been bugging me about the handling of Tyra's plot. They haven't made any mention of the fact that her mother was beaten up by guys and that Tyra passionately defended her mother but also saw her mother as a victim. I think that is SUCH a powerful piece of character background that's important to understand when looking at how she reacted to being attacked. And yet they didn't use it. Her performance has been impeccable in its realism for how a 'normal' girl might react under the circumstances, but Tyra's got a history of seeing men abuse women and a above-average drive to not be a victim herself. I think that could have been teased out ever so subtly when it came to her decision to cover up and dump the body. I can do the work backwards and work out that she thinks the guy is total scum and deserves it and she's tried to justify it to herself that way, but... the show didn't make it easy and it could have been easier.
I may be revealing a little too much about my psychology here, but omg, I am SO identifying with Deb right now! She's always been my favourite character but I just adored the way she found that 'peaceful place' in music in this episode. I can see how it might have seemed cheesy to some but I have a really strong reaction to music and it can stir up a lot of emotions. There's some music I just can't listen to a lot because it puts me in too weird a headspace. I could feel her fear about relaxing into that space almost physically, and I also identified with the odd calm that she found when she let herself do so, and the disconnection from her life around her. Yet, I know what she means about thriving on the chaos too...
I'm also feeling that my suspicions about Lila were spot on. I have felt she was an intensely selfish character from the first time she was introduced but that Dexter was blind to that. Yes, she's good for him at one level but he's vulnerable to her as well.
Dexter's play of Doakes was masterful. I love watching Doakes, he's great value, if limited, and his 'you're backing a fucking freaktard' line was wonderful, coz, um, yeah, we are.
The last few days have been horrendous for me and I owe a lot of people a lot of things--comments, posts, feedback, emails, time. Sorry, guys! Thanks for bearing with me.
However, I do have some good news! You remember my whinge about the BSG hiatus? (It wasn't really that, but you know what I mean.) Well, thanks to everyone suggestions, I've set up a new community:
bsg_hiatusthon. I hope it can be a place where we can organise some ficathons and challenges for the fandom as a whole (NOT just K/L shippers, despite the way my f'list is slanted :p) over the coming months, and I have ideas for the first one already. I was going to wait until then to pimp it, but siljamus has done such a lovely job with the layout, you should check it out. More details to come as soon as I catch my breath!Yikes, no time for this one! So quickly quickly: Landry broke my heart and I was so scared his dad was going to flip out. When he hugged him I cried. The other guys making me cry this week were Jason and Coach--their scene had be weepy as hell. I am so glad Jason's listening to his heart but on the other hand, wow what a tough decision and what IS he going to do. I thought the '19, going back to Dillon' line was perfect for conveying where he's at.
I was happy with the Tim development and also happy that he's not got an easy card back in from Coach. I kind of adored Smash asking him over for dinner and Smash's little speech about the differences between them. It was also great to see Tim there at Jason's birthday toasting him. The scene between Tim and Lyla was also very strong.
Poor Tami! I loved the way she reacted when her sister arrived--they conveyed the sense of this long-established family dynamic so well. You can whinge about it but you still fall into the same patterns and there's love there underneath. Julie's so painful to watch right now. But I don't think Matty's new girl will last.
On a random note: I've realised one of the things that's been bugging me about the handling of Tyra's plot. They haven't made any mention of the fact that her mother was beaten up by guys and that Tyra passionately defended her mother but also saw her mother as a victim. I think that is SUCH a powerful piece of character background that's important to understand when looking at how she reacted to being attacked. And yet they didn't use it. Her performance has been impeccable in its realism for how a 'normal' girl might react under the circumstances, but Tyra's got a history of seeing men abuse women and a above-average drive to not be a victim herself. I think that could have been teased out ever so subtly when it came to her decision to cover up and dump the body. I can do the work backwards and work out that she thinks the guy is total scum and deserves it and she's tried to justify it to herself that way, but... the show didn't make it easy and it could have been easier.
I may be revealing a little too much about my psychology here, but omg, I am SO identifying with Deb right now! She's always been my favourite character but I just adored the way she found that 'peaceful place' in music in this episode. I can see how it might have seemed cheesy to some but I have a really strong reaction to music and it can stir up a lot of emotions. There's some music I just can't listen to a lot because it puts me in too weird a headspace. I could feel her fear about relaxing into that space almost physically, and I also identified with the odd calm that she found when she let herself do so, and the disconnection from her life around her. Yet, I know what she means about thriving on the chaos too...
I'm also feeling that my suspicions about Lila were spot on. I have felt she was an intensely selfish character from the first time she was introduced but that Dexter was blind to that. Yes, she's good for him at one level but he's vulnerable to her as well.
Dexter's play of Doakes was masterful. I love watching Doakes, he's great value, if limited, and his 'you're backing a fucking freaktard' line was wonderful, coz, um, yeah, we are.
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Date: 2007-11-13 12:12 pm (UTC){{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Date: 2007-11-13 12:54 pm (UTC)I will also be unlocking my 'Razor' post today. ;)
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Date: 2007-11-14 12:01 am (UTC)But a moment of "What??" hit me with "Dexter" and I can't get rid of it. May be I am misunderstanding.. When in the last episode Dexter deleted the video files he didn't delete them from recycle bin too (at least we didn't see it). I prefer to think it was just left out but this little thing grates me.. As if it isn't well thought-through..
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Date: 2007-11-14 12:36 am (UTC)I heart Deb SO MUCH. The fact that she's getting character growth is so pleasing!
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Date: 2007-11-14 12:08 am (UTC)added: I came across this 2 minute Lee character study vid on youtube. It's really good (at least I thought so) Here's the link if you're interested Lee - Break (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rN2jvG3arbU)
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Date: 2007-11-14 08:03 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-11-14 10:37 am (UTC)Hope you're having a good day :)
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Date: 2007-11-14 11:18 am (UTC)My day was... full of stupid people but all days seem better than Monday was now, so I'm ok.
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Date: 2007-11-15 08:58 am (UTC)Just remember that important work mantra - "Dear Lord, please grant me the Strength to overcome the challenges sent to me, the Patience to deal fairly with the perils and hazards of change and stress, and the Wisdom to find good hiding places for the bodies of the people who really pissed me off."
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Date: 2007-11-15 09:27 am (UTC)She's definitely good! I see that I have been replaced in your meta affections. *sniffles* :p
the Wisdom to find good hiding places for the bodies of the people who really pissed me off."
Fuck that would have done me good this afternoon. The bitch fired her anyway. *drinking myself into a stupor right now*
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Date: 2007-11-15 12:21 pm (UTC)Replaced? Never. I pointed out in my comment to her that her meta was in my stack for detailed response - behind yours :P I've still got a notepad on my PC at home that I'm still trying to finish my first-cut response to your meta. That's why I keep coming back with odd posts - it's as I get another multiple of 4300 characters in responses done :P I've not gone back to start answering your responses to my comments yet...
Fuck that would have done me good this afternoon. The bitch fired her anyway. *drinking myself into a stupor right now*
She fired her despite giving a 10 day review period? Well, I hope your assistant is going to bring a case for wrongful dismissal and discrimination immediately, because it sounds like one is thoroughly deserved. *offers Tim Tams* My Lee icon seems appropriate. Feel free to have it tattooed on said bosses forehead.
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Date: 2007-11-15 12:50 pm (UTC)trying to finish my first-cut response to your meta
Oh! That explains the random comnment this morning! :D *abashed*
She fired her despite giving a 10 day review period?
Yes. There were tears and drama and more tears. My whole team were very shocked. And then there was me getting very drunk. I feel so bad for this girl. I left her my number and she rang me this evening. I'm not sure I made a lot of sense but I think the words 'vindictive bitch' may have been used.
If only either of us had been as fiery as Lee. Sigh. I feel I was a pushover today. I can't shake the guilt. She blindsided me and it was over before I knew it.
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Date: 2007-11-15 01:45 pm (UTC)Yohei? I thought that was a type of yoghurt *confused*
Oh! That explains the random comnment this morning! :D *abashed*
There's a cunning pattern to my comments on your meta here - if you line them all up in date order and paste them together, you'll find they're working through your meta from top to bottom ;) I still seem to have huge amounts to comment on...
Yes. There were tears and drama and more tears. My whole team were very shocked. And then there was me getting very drunk. I feel so bad for this girl. I left her my number and she rang me this evening. I'm not sure I made a lot of sense but I think the words 'vindictive bitch' may have been used.
What were her specific grounds for firing her? She can't use a cop-out like "after review" because the ten days weren't up. At this point, a crusade to get your boss fired is definitely the way to go. Although it may not need to go that far - as soon as someone starts making a case for discrimination on disability grounds, a lot of companies back down right away, to avoid the "we're mean to disabled people" label.
If only either of us had been as fiery as Lee. Sigh. I feel I was a pushover today. I can't shake the guilt. She blindsided me and it was over before I knew it.
From the sounds of it, your boss is quite the experienced bitch queen from hell - I wouldn't be surprised to find that she deliberately chose the time and place she did and then worked as quickly as she could to keep people off-balance. Some people do that. Don't let her beat you. And never forget that you can kick her in the head without having to move far, so she should be afraid of you.
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Date: 2007-11-17 10:25 am (UTC)Yohei is a peasant in the movie 'The 7 Samurai'. He makes a maudlin face a lot.
I agree with you that my boss firing her was unfair--I am going to give the girl advice about that if she wants to take it further. Although seeing as my boss only has two weeks left before she leaves anyway she's going to get little satisfaction from trying to get her sacked. :( And yeah, she IS an experienced bitch queen it turns out, because when I spoke to my regular boss, the one whose job I'm covering, he knew EXACTLY the sort of behaviour I described and said that he thought she'd actually made her mind up about the assistant a month or more ago. She made some comment to him about it. Apparently she's taken such dislikes to people before and handled it in a similar trainwreck style scenario. And when I explained I got cut out of the process he said, 'oh, yes, as soon as you disagree with her, she'll cut you out'.
The only good thing is that it's transparently obvious to my team what happened and they all think it's appalling. I don't feel any need to cover for that woman so she can just suck it up until she leaves.