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Of lesbian-ish men and other happy-making things
I have been anxious and jittery this week, hence the lack of posting. I have a stressful work commitment tomorrow which will mean I won't be able to watch Smallville until the weekend (grrr... after it's been off for so long... grrr). Hopefully I will feel much better when it's over.
Since it seems as if I am not alone in finding this week bleak/stressful/difficult, I figured I should post something cheerifying.
I have become quite fixated with this list of the top-ten lesbian-ish men. And not only because Jamie is on it. ;-) I'm slightly confronted by how many of my top crushes are on that list... Johnny Depp? Check! John Cusack? Check! Jake-y holding down top spot? Check! And I have soft spots for Eric, Orlando and Keanu too. Should I reconsider my sexuality?! o.O *giggles* OK, totally not, because I like men waaay too much to give them up, but it still amuses me that I like the pouty pretty boys. But why is Tommy not on that list?! (I am heartened to see him mentioned in the comments.)
This list has got me all thoughtful about the nature of attraction and things I find hot in straight men. Probably connected to the fact that I like a lot of the guys on that list is the fact that I find straight guys who demonstrate the following ridiculously attractive:
- comfortableness with their feminine side
- willingness to be objectified
- willingness to play 'second' to or be topped by straight girl.
Yet I'm a bit contrary, because at the end of the day I don't want them to be too girly. (Hence the importance of good arms! *g*)
One question this list raises for me is what would the equivalent list be like from gay men? Which girls do they crush on? Anyone care to speculate?
What about girls that straight girls commonly crush on? Are there common attributes among them? Because part of me wants to say yes, and part of me thinks it's too hard to generalise... I feel sure fandom will resolve this matter for me. *nods*
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bananainpyjamas tagged me for the ten favourite things meme.
1. Raspberries: oh, most wonderful of fruits! I like all berries, but raspberries most of all. If there's a raspberry anything on a menu, I'll make a beeline for it. Favourite raspberry variations: fresh raspberry jam, mum's raspberry hazelnut meringue cake, frozen raspberries mixed through greek yoghurt, chocolate-covered raspberries, raspberry smoothies.
2. Red shoes: red's a great 'feature' colour. Too much of it is a bad thing, but a striking splash is always fun, and red shoes make me cheery. (This is pretty much my criteria for any clothing--will it make me feel cheery?) I've had red shoes in my wardrobe all my adult life, whether it's red one-stars, cherry red campers, or maroon-red ballet flats.
3. Rai, Aishwarya: Bollywood mega-star, who I am quite besotted with. Anyone who looks that while doing such ridiculous dancing gets points from me. Plus she's incredibly well-spoken, gracious and graceful in person. I can't look at her for too long--I get too hypnotised.
4. Reading! Of course. Probably the most obvious 'R' on my list, since I started reading as a teenie wee bop. The first word I spoke was 'book' (no doubt because my parents were depriving me of said item! *glares*). The first word I ever read (aloud) was 'Coca-cola' when we were on holiday in Spain. (My parents figure it was the only word I recognised on the signs.) I remember overhearing the boys in my primary school talking about me:
Boy 1: What do you think of k?
Boy 2: She's ok but she reads too much.
Oh, how I blushed behind the pages of my novel. ;-)
5. Radioheadradioreverie made me! No. Actually she didn't. ;-) They'd totally make my list of cool 'R' things, even without her spamming me with Thom and Jonny pics/news/trivia on a weekly basis.
6. Recycling I'm a dork, I know. But recycling is yay! I have a compost heap I am very proud of, and apart from doing the regular recycling of paper and bottles and cans, I try to re-use water from the house on the garden, and my boy and I are excellent scavengers. It helps that he's in the waste management industry. ;-) I'm a big fan of the hard rubbish collection--I've found the most awesome things in that.
7. Rushdie, Salman One of my favourite authors, largely on the strength of Midnight's Children, though I love The Satanic Verses as well. He's had some weaker works, it's true, but as a teenager Midnight's Children was a real eye-opener for me into the world of contemporary international fiction and magical realism.
8. Roman Holiday One of my favourite movies. Audrey's so gorgeous in it--she makes the cutest drunk ever. And I love the final scene. Plus vespas! Rome! gelati! hijinks! It's a classic for a reason.
9. Redemption A fictional theme dear to my heart. I'm a sucker for redemption/rebirth/renewal plots, as readers of my meta will know. (For Smallville fans: this explains why I'm a Lex-fan in the early seasons and then flip over into being a Clark fan in the later seasons.) Naturally this often means I'm drawn to dark plots and attracted to some pretty dark characters. Recently I ran through the crimes of my favourite characters and managed to tick off rape, murder, incest, crippling entire nation states and attempted genocide. *beams* About the only thing I can think of that my darlings haven't been guilty of is cannibalism, and now I feel I'm only tempting fate... eeep!
10. Rosenbaum, Michael So predictable, I know. But how could I leave out the acting genius behind Smallville's Lex? Especially when he's so totally, adorkably, hyper-actively insane.
Anyone want a letter?
Since it seems as if I am not alone in finding this week bleak/stressful/difficult, I figured I should post something cheerifying.
I have become quite fixated with this list of the top-ten lesbian-ish men. And not only because Jamie is on it. ;-) I'm slightly confronted by how many of my top crushes are on that list... Johnny Depp? Check! John Cusack? Check! Jake-y holding down top spot? Check! And I have soft spots for Eric, Orlando and Keanu too. Should I reconsider my sexuality?! o.O *giggles* OK, totally not, because I like men waaay too much to give them up, but it still amuses me that I like the pouty pretty boys. But why is Tommy not on that list?! (I am heartened to see him mentioned in the comments.)
This list has got me all thoughtful about the nature of attraction and things I find hot in straight men. Probably connected to the fact that I like a lot of the guys on that list is the fact that I find straight guys who demonstrate the following ridiculously attractive:
- comfortableness with their feminine side
- willingness to be objectified
- willingness to play 'second' to or be topped by straight girl.
Yet I'm a bit contrary, because at the end of the day I don't want them to be too girly. (Hence the importance of good arms! *g*)
One question this list raises for me is what would the equivalent list be like from gay men? Which girls do they crush on? Anyone care to speculate?
What about girls that straight girls commonly crush on? Are there common attributes among them? Because part of me wants to say yes, and part of me thinks it's too hard to generalise... I feel sure fandom will resolve this matter for me. *nods*
bananainpyjamas tagged me for the ten favourite things meme. 1. Raspberries: oh, most wonderful of fruits! I like all berries, but raspberries most of all. If there's a raspberry anything on a menu, I'll make a beeline for it. Favourite raspberry variations: fresh raspberry jam, mum's raspberry hazelnut meringue cake, frozen raspberries mixed through greek yoghurt, chocolate-covered raspberries, raspberry smoothies.
2. Red shoes: red's a great 'feature' colour. Too much of it is a bad thing, but a striking splash is always fun, and red shoes make me cheery. (This is pretty much my criteria for any clothing--will it make me feel cheery?) I've had red shoes in my wardrobe all my adult life, whether it's red one-stars, cherry red campers, or maroon-red ballet flats.
3. Rai, Aishwarya: Bollywood mega-star, who I am quite besotted with. Anyone who looks that while doing such ridiculous dancing gets points from me. Plus she's incredibly well-spoken, gracious and graceful in person. I can't look at her for too long--I get too hypnotised.
4. Reading! Of course. Probably the most obvious 'R' on my list, since I started reading as a teenie wee bop. The first word I spoke was 'book' (no doubt because my parents were depriving me of said item! *glares*). The first word I ever read (aloud) was 'Coca-cola' when we were on holiday in Spain. (My parents figure it was the only word I recognised on the signs.) I remember overhearing the boys in my primary school talking about me:
Boy 1: What do you think of k?
Boy 2: She's ok but she reads too much.
Oh, how I blushed behind the pages of my novel. ;-)
5. Radiohead
radioreverie made me! No. Actually she didn't. ;-) They'd totally make my list of cool 'R' things, even without her spamming me with Thom and Jonny pics/news/trivia on a weekly basis.6. Recycling I'm a dork, I know. But recycling is yay! I have a compost heap I am very proud of, and apart from doing the regular recycling of paper and bottles and cans, I try to re-use water from the house on the garden, and my boy and I are excellent scavengers. It helps that he's in the waste management industry. ;-) I'm a big fan of the hard rubbish collection--I've found the most awesome things in that.
7. Rushdie, Salman One of my favourite authors, largely on the strength of Midnight's Children, though I love The Satanic Verses as well. He's had some weaker works, it's true, but as a teenager Midnight's Children was a real eye-opener for me into the world of contemporary international fiction and magical realism.
8. Roman Holiday One of my favourite movies. Audrey's so gorgeous in it--she makes the cutest drunk ever. And I love the final scene. Plus vespas! Rome! gelati! hijinks! It's a classic for a reason.
9. Redemption A fictional theme dear to my heart. I'm a sucker for redemption/rebirth/renewal plots, as readers of my meta will know. (For Smallville fans: this explains why I'm a Lex-fan in the early seasons and then flip over into being a Clark fan in the later seasons.) Naturally this often means I'm drawn to dark plots and attracted to some pretty dark characters. Recently I ran through the crimes of my favourite characters and managed to tick off rape, murder, incest, crippling entire nation states and attempted genocide. *beams* About the only thing I can think of that my darlings haven't been guilty of is cannibalism, and now I feel I'm only tempting fate... eeep!
10. Rosenbaum, Michael So predictable, I know. But how could I leave out the acting genius behind Smallville's Lex? Especially when he's so totally, adorkably, hyper-actively insane.
Anyone want a letter?
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Smart + attracted to strong women + full, sensual lips + amazing arms + strong jawline = OMG perfect!
Learning about Jamie’s degrees and interest in Italian lit just made me flailier than I’d ever been before. Whew! Sexy!
I love your “favorite things” list too…Roman Holiday is an all time fave of mine as well. Gelato! + Hepburn AND Peck! + Rome! + Vespas! = Perfect Squee. When I was studying over there I loved going through all the places they went to during the filming (much like the rest of the tourists in the world). It’s awesome that it was shot on location, not many films in that period were. And oh, that last scene! Sniff.
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Smart + attracted to strong women + full, sensual lips + amazing arms + strong jawline = OMG perfect!
Hee! I'd add cheekbones to that list. ;-) You can't go past good cheekbones. And Jamie scores really well on all those points. (Yup, I pretty much fell head over heels for him when I learnt he had an MA in Modern Languages--French (my major!) and Italian (Dante!) *loves*).
Roman Holiday is so wonderful. And hee, I had a crisis about plurals! There were multiple gelati in movie, yes? Or is gelato the collective noun also?
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There were multiple gelati in movie, yes?
OMG you’re right, there were multiple gelati. Although, if you were to say that outside of Italy I think you’d just confuse people, so I think you went with the right choice after all.
As far as girl crushes, I’ve thought about it a while, and the only thing I can come up with is that for me, they have to be snarky. Starbuck / Katee Sackhoff. Katherine Hepburn. Elizabeth Bennet. Nora of the Thin Man movies. Veronica Mars.
But then Audrey Hepburn is one of my biggest girlcrushes of all time and I don’t know that I’d call her snarky. Elegant and witty, yes. Hmm. She’s just too lovely to leave out! And a marvelous humanitarian to boot!
Well, good luck with the long trip, and I hope things improve soon -- wishing you all the best.
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Oh, god... *melts* ...
Er, yes, sorry, what? I am sure I could give Mr Damon a shot. *magnanimous*
I think you went with the right choice after all.
I'm glad that we can dork about plural nouns. *dorks*
Snarky girls are good! Yes! That accounts for my Lois Lane thing, for sure. As well as the obvious Kara/Katee thing. I don't watch Veronica Mars but I appreciate that she fits that mould too. Headstrong, forthright, opinionated, funny, intelligent, assertive--these things all appeal, yes.
Audrey is a category of person and icon all unto her own self. *nods* She's adorable but completely separate from my other girlcrushes.
Back from long trip, exhausted but relieved... I am having some brief soothing LJ time before tumbling into bed...
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As for girlcrushes, Lois Lane is a perfect fit. Also, your remarks made me reflect that I think Audrey is intelligent and assertive, even if she only snarks in a very genteel way. Hmm. Yes, I think that's how I want to put it. Anyway, she's too fetching not to adore. Look!
Well, I hope you had a lovely and well-deserved rest after your trip. I'm glad it's over and you feel relieved. I'm clambering into the car right after I finish teaching this morning, so I'll be checking in later tonight if you want to myth-geekout a little. *hugs*
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Yes, I think Audrey IS assertive and intelligent. She's never seemed to be just a mindless, simpering pushover, that's for sure!
I'm terrible at working out time differences... and I'm still trying to catch up on sleep, but yes, myth-geekout, we must. *resolves*
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Lee-stubble! Lee-stubble! Lee-stubble!fic!!
Heh, I'll put it in the queue. Mmm stubble. I'm getting pretty good at distracting myself, and it's only a month into the hiatus.
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